Well, here I am a forty-something mum sitting in front of a screen not knowing what the hell I am doing. Wanting to make changes in my life, both small and large, not sure exactly how I am going to do it. Wanting life to slow down, be less stressful. Be able to enjoy the things I love and not take my good fortunes for granted. As I type these words I wonder if any of this will make sense to people? Will people feel the same way? Will anyone care about what I have to offer? Will people say it is a mid-life crisis?
Then I remind myself……I am doing this for ME, not anyone else. Turning 40 sparked something in me that I had not felt before. A sense of needing to be true to myself. To stop caring about what people think of me, to be truer to myself, and acknowledge my needs and wants out of life.
Now this by no means was an overnight epiphany, but instead a slow realisation. Taking place over many months and if I am honest with myself probably years.
I look back at my life and see a big difference over the decades. The changes in how I approach, live and enjoy life.
UNDER 20 – I was free from everyday stresses of money and long term financial commitments. I worked full time but never took work home with me and enjoyed my free time having fun. Met my partner Rick and fell instantly in LOVE. Felt semi-confident in myself and looking back wish I wore a bikini more often.
MY 20’s – We bought our first house and I changed my career path. We had no money and rarely went out, had personal loan debt but worked hard. We sold our first house, built again, and then sold that as well. We started getting financially stable however I hated my job and felt destined to do something more. I was nowhere near ready to start a family and we didn’t travel like a lot of my friends. I just never had the desire (or the money) so lived a pretty boring life.
MY 30’s – We built another house (as an owner-builder and was so bloody hard). We then sold that house and built another one! Yes, FOUR!! Rick started a new business and we become more financially secure. After many discussions, we decided to start a family, and then BOOM 6 weeks later I was pregnant. We had a beautiful baby girl and were so happy. However, I had a hard pregnancy and birth and lost myself in motherhood and really struggled for a few years. I felt invisible, unhappy with my looks, and felt I had many failures as a parent.
MY 40’s – Just before I turned 40 something inside me changed and I wanted more for myself. Not in a selfish way but in a “Kelly is Back” way. I am not sure what it was that triggered it. It might have been being financially secure, having a child start school, and getting some more time back for me. Maybe it was just maturing and getting “old” that made me change the way I look at myself. I did the superficial things like bought new clothes, starting getting my hair cut and coloured more often, got my nails done regularly and generally felt happy with my looks. But also small day to day changes, like getting more focused and organised, enjoying my family time, or just going out to dinner because I enjoy it. I started learning new skills online, joined Tiktok (check out my profile HERE) and made a fool of myself, and started saying NO to the things I just didn’t want to do.
I craved a slower-paced life where we could enjoy the things the hard work in the early years had paved the way for.
However, it is not that easy to change your life and it’s something that I am still working on. So I am constantly re-evaluating, making different choices, learning new things, and setting boundaries in the hope of improving and creating a simpler life.
This blog will be full of all different and exciting things. Including how to make changes that matter, getting the confidence to be YOU, everyday cooking and recipes, simple home decor and improvements you can make, easy wearable fashion for the everyday women, family life, and of course steps you can make to create a more Liveable Life!
I hope you join me on this journey and would love to hear your story and what changes you are making to your life….